Delivered Daily Delighting Family of Five Forever!”
Ramesh C. Reddy
memorial of Dr. A. R. Reddy, our beloved dad, and our mom's beloved
husband for 37 years and a friend to many!
NOV 01, 1941 - DEC 17, 2007
We remember our dad for the wonderful caring person he was towards all five of us: My mom, my 3 brothers, and myself. My dad
loved to take care of his loved ones so much.
May the Lord Jesus Christ take care of you in His arms of love!
My dad was the one who
helped one of his brothers become a lawyer. My dad made sure his parents
were well taken care of when he finished college even if it meant he had
to go without food so money could go to his parents. When my grandfather
passed away, my dad made sure his mom was well taken care of through the
My dad was so intelligent and had knowledge on any topic you could think
of except sports. My dad was not really into sports but would watch the
NCAA Tournament with us with excitement when the games were thrillers. I
remember when we first came to USA my dad and most of us would watch the
Chicago Bears pulverize the New England Patriots in the Super Bowl of
1985. Those were fun times!
My dad was one of the best Professors of Mathematics and toured the
country and world giving talks on Mathematics and publishing papers with
the best. My dad became a professor when he was 30 years old. My dad
always helped people come up and do well. I remember my dad never wanted
to fail people no matter how bad they were doing so he would look for
anyway he could give a point here and there to see if they could pass.
My mom told us that he would even ask my mom how many points to give so
and so students.
Years ago, I remember he took us to Wendy’s in Oakland and then took us
to his office in Thackery Hall when he was a visiting professor there at
the University of Pittsburgh.
Because of my dad, I got minors in Computer Science and Math. I did not
get majors in them because my heart was not there. My dad encouraged me
that I would become a great lawyer one day and wanted me to study at
Harvard Law School even before I went through middle school. Things
happened along the way that I chose the University of Pittsburgh even though I graduated 22nd
out of 435 in my high school class and my dad wanted me to go elsewhere. I wish I had chosen the places my
dad wanted me to go as I look back but by the Lord’s grace and mercy, I
have been blessed where I have been at.
My dad used to tell me that one day I would become a great journalist
and wanted me to win the Pulitzer Prize in writing. The Pittsburgh
Standard is dedicated to the memory of my dad from this day of December
My dad made sure that all of our education was covered. My dad never
wanted us to worry about money and did not want us to work while in
school because he said he would take care of us. I was really touched.
My dad took care of everything for us and in essence did spoil us in a
nice way. I miss my dad so much.
My dad used to love bringing us white powdered
donuts and candies. Every time dad would come home from work, I knew I
would have sweets for my sweet tooth! My dad rarely ever wanted to spend money on
himself. My dad was so unselfish. My dad hated when people spent money
on him because he always felt that money could be spent for his children
and his wife.
My dad did not believe in the 18+ years old and you are out of the house
concept but on the contrary no matter where we lived, he wanted to make
sure we were always provided for. My dad would ask my mom to always call
us home for dinner so we could get a home cooked meal by mom as dad did
most of the shopping.
One time my dad lost his job in India because he did not want to leave
us by ourselves here. My dad was so overprotective in a good way. My dad
could have taken us back to India when we were young but did not want to
uproot us from here because he knew how much all of us loved America.
My dad was always thinking of us how to help us. My dad would never want
to watch TV too if we had a programming. My dad always put all of us
first including my mom. My dad always made sure my mom was eating well
and all of us were eating well.
My dad never complained regarding his dialysis but took it so strongly.
My dad loved shopping for us and seeing us all happy. I miss my dad so
much and wish I could have told him, ’I LOVE YOU DADDY’ before he
collapsed. I wish I could have turned the time back to that night before
he collapsed but I cannot. I pray Jesus lets my dad know how much he was
appreciated even when we could not always show it.
My dad was the best when it came to putting his family first always.
Everything he wanted to do reflected how best it would serve his family.
My dad was married to my mom for 37 faithful years and leaves my
wonderful mommy and all 4 of us brothers behind. But, we do know my dad
is in the loving arms of Jesus Christ our Lord and Personal Savior.
We have been blessed to have a wonderful daddy who knew so much
knowledge that he did not want to keep it to himself but always share it
with us. My dad did not want to stop learning even when he was sick. My
dad put it to practice the old saying, ‘ A mind is a terrible thing to
With our dad we never had to worry about finances when we were strapped
for money because he would make sure we were taken care of. My dad loved
to save and pleaded with us to save money instead of squandering it
away. My mom would encourage me to save because my mom would say ‘if you
don’t put money in your account, dad will have to use his money to put
it in‘. My mom did not think that was right and I agreed with her.
Anything dealing with finances, accounting, math, statistics, world
politics, national politics, religion, etc, my dad could teach a nation.
My dad was so good, he could have become a great consultant in any topic
but the Lord Jesus had other plans for him.
We thank the Lord Jesus for saving our daddy before he passed away. We
thank the Lord Jesus for all the time he gave us to spend with our dad
in the UPMC Shadyside ICU and Kindred Hospital where he was in the later
My dad’s desire was to see his children prosperous and always happy. My
dad was not too thrilled when I did not want to do a prestigious job but
work in food services until my mom explained to him and then he
understood even though he did not agree. My dad spoiled us because he
would take care of everything at home including the chores so we could
focus on our studies and also enjoy the rest of the time.
We all miss our dad so much! I want to take this time now to ask anyone
who has not told their dad, ‘I LOVE YOU DAD’ to call their dad and let
them know that, write to their dad, talk to their dad, and if their dad
has passed away to let Jesus Christ know what they would have wanted to
tell their dad.
Don’t put it off thinking you will do it one day. After my dad passed
away, it made me realize how many things I have taken for granted! I
have been blessed by the Lord Jesus Christ to have seen my dad everyday
since October 08, 2007 when he was admitted to the UPMC Shadyside ICU.
I was also blessed that my dad and mom stayed with my older brother and
I before my dad collapsed. It would have been so much harder if they
were back home in India when this happened. Our Lord in His faithfulness
spared us the agony of not being able to see our dad everyday as would
have happened if he was in India hospitalized since most of our work has
been in the states.
My dad is the one who bought my mommy her first Bible when my mom became
a born-again Christian even though my dad did not believe at the time.
My dad loved to play card games and Carrom games as a family with us. My
dad loved to take us to places when we were young. We would all go as a
family shopping, etc.
My dad loved us so much that no matter where we lived, he would want mom
to call us to talk to us. My dad loved talking to us over the phone and
share what is happening around the world.
I could share so much more about my dad but if I leave you with one
thing about my dad, it was that he loved his family so much. FAMILY
always came first over everything including HIS JOB, FUN, FAME, OR
Family was the world to him and it would make him so mad when he found
out families that were abusing each other whether it was a husband
abusing the wife, being unfaithful to her, or kids being abused.
So, from my dad and mom, I have learned the importance of family life.
My mom would tell us even now that my dad would have been so pleased to
see all his sons together with my mom even though he was in the
hospital. It was his desire to see his family always together
figuratively even though distance wise it would not always be possible
but these past few days it was.
My dad always wanted to move to Maryland but because of his family, he
chose to stay in Pittsburgh even though his heart’s desire was to be in
Silver Spring, Maryland. So when my dad passed away, we as a family
decided to honor his desires and have his final resting place in
We had a wonderful private viewing time and a wonderful funeral time for
our beloved dad on December 20, 2007 after my dad passed away on
December 17, 2007. My dad’s body is resting in peace near a statue of
12-year old Jesus at the temple. His soul is with Jesus Christ! May his
soul rest in peace!
May you never take anyone for granted and whoever you come across, show
them the love of Christ and happiness so you will not have regrets. May
the Lord Jesus guide you this wonderful blessed Christmas season where
God is with us through Jesus Christ our Lord filling His children with
the Holy Spirit.