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Part I: Interview
Pitt student becomes a Panther mascot!

Part II: Interview- Panther shares more of his game experiences

Part III Interview:
Panther enjoys life outside of the zoo


Editorial: Sharing one another's burdens

Letters to the editor guidelines

Why Pro-war v.s Pro-peace is a problem

C-side swiper's name spree II

Don't be a Charlie Brown in relationships

Mexican exchange student enters a party!

Alcohol visits many faces across lands

Complaints of loneliness can be solved


Top 25 reasons behind a candy cane

Whose birthday did I forget to celebrate this time?

Find the hidden Christmas Carols and win $25

Rhyme delivers message of Christmas


Review of Fellowship of the Ring

The movie 'HOW HIGH' is a disgrace!


Is the Resurrection of Jesus Christ just a myth or fact?


Freshman cheerleader shares experience



Complaints of loneliness can be solved

Ezekiel Lim
Pittsburgh Standard

         Throughout my freshman year here at Pitt, Iíve had nothing but complaints about the school and the city of Pittsburgh in general.  My parents and the friends that Iíve made here can verify that.  Iím sure many college students can understand how I was feeling at the time. I was six hours away from home, which is a long distance from my family, friends, girlfriend, and comfort zone. 

I was both intimidated and confused by this strange new world that lay before my eyes. I was intimidated by the fact that I no longer had my close friends, many of whom Iíve known since my pre-teen years, there to comfort me and be there to defend me if trouble should arise. 

My parents were no longer a holler to the next room away.  I would be forced to wait months at a time for those hugs and kisses my girlfriend made so readily available.  I would have to start all over again establishing new connections to go alongside the ones Iíve made during my years at home. 

            With this intimidation came confusion and uncertainty.  I was uncertain about the types of people I would encounter here at school.  Questions about what kinds of people I would befriend here began to arise in my mind.   I began to find that many of the people I was befriending proved to be what the movie Fight Club deemed ďsingle-serving friendsĒ. 

I also found that the friends that I was making didnít add up to what I had back home.  It also didnít help that Iíd wind up being dumped by my girlfriend and replaced with a new face only three weeks into my freshman year. 

Ever since then Iíve been trying to find a cure for this burden called loneliness.   Iíve tried just about every method to no avail.  Iíve tried the house parties, the dance parties, and the student organizations in search of something to fill this empty void that was left inside of me as a result of my being away from home.  I would find that after a short time, the loneliness I was trying to rid myself of would resurface. 

            It wasnít until this school year, my sophomore year that I realized what my mistakes were.  I was clinging to the past trying to befriend the same types of people that I called my friends in high school.  I was putting myself first and expecting everything to be the way I wanted it.  Through all these experiences, I found that the way to truly feel loved and appreciated is to show that love towards other people. 

In order to feel appreciated, one should go and show someone else that appreciation.  Itís a matter of giving that which you wish to receive.  By giving up expectations for how circumstances should turn out and instead helping someone else out, one can find that the feeling is like no other.

 The singer Nelly Furtado couldnít have summed it up better than her lyrics in the song Turn Off The Light that say ďwhere is the love that Iím looking to find? Itís all in me why canít you, why canít you see that itís all in me.Ē 

One doesnít need a steady relationship or one million or so people greeting them on the street to fill that lonely void that is left by being away from home. By making someone else feel appreciated, one can find that his or her actions were not in vain. Through all this Iíve found that my stay here at Pitt has been more fulfilling than I ever expected it to be. 


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