First, before reviewing, "Marriage
on the Rock" by Jimmy Evans,
I want to take you on our own marriage journey filled with
love, laughter, and loss.
When I was praying to get married, I
was looking for a wife who loved Jesus more than me. My precious
also had the same desire that she would marry a husband who loved
Jesus more than her.
So during our courting days, she would always send me Bible
verses to encourage me and so did I. After getting married, whether
we were continents apart or home together, we would ask each other
and share what we learned from God's Word for that day in our quiet
times with the Lord.
even loved when I would share what I learned from my devotional time
with others. One day I was so touched when she told me that she did
not mind if I did not spend time with her as long as I shared the
devotional times with others. She exhorted me to share the
devotionals reminding me that they reach a lot of people. She point
blank asked me, ‘Why are you not
sharing your devotional studies anymore?’
My former Pastor Hugo
would say that he wished that our sharing of what we learned in our
Quiet Times with the Lord would continue throughout our marriage
years. Sadly, in our 10+ years of marriage, even though we have had
Quiet Times almost everyday, we have not shared with each other
everyday. The days we did share, it was such a blessing even now.
One day I was doing an inductive
Bible study with my wife that even our daughters Evangeline (5)
and Esther (8)
at the time got into it. Recently,
Evangeline asked me if we could have a
Bible study like that again.
The more our hearts and minds turned towards Christ, the
more our marriage has been able to be sustained especially through
the turbulent storms of life.
Has it been an easy marriage?
Not a bit.
It has been plagued with personality issues, financial
issues, in-law issues, career issus, etc
Have we had doubts if we made the right decision at times?
Sadly, yeah but when we remember the Lord brought us
together in holy matrimony before him, we strive to be all that the
Lord Jesus wants our marriage to be. It has not been easy but
through the Word of God and the counsel of pastors our love for each other grows
I still remember Pastor Hugo
telling me that the more you love your wife, the more beautiful she
becomes to you. How true this is even to this day for me after 10+
years of marriage. I remember how
Pastor Josh has reminded me to
‘Listen, Listen, Listen’ to your wife.
During courting days, things looked so peachy that we got
married but after marriage we learned things about each other that
hurt us and made us sad. My sweet Leela’s expectations of me were
shattered when she found out what a short tempered person I can be
and what a hoarder I was of things.
It is only through our
dependence on Jesus Christ and the Word of God that has sustained us
through our marriage as we try to love each other deeply. It has not
been easy but our happy times of marriage have outweighed our sad
times to a ratio of 8:2.My wife just told me today that our
marriage could have been 100% happiness if it were not for my short
temper so she was giving it an 80% happiness.
What we strive to do is build our marriage on the Rock every
We have some great memories in our 10+ years of marriage but
our favorite memories are our times together enjoying each other
alone, with our children, and families as we seek Christ daily.
To that end both of us take as many pictures of us together
as possible as memories.
Everytime we have watched Marriage Today ministries, we have
What is your marriage based on?
Is it a marriage based on convenience?
Is it a marriage based on wealth?
Is it a marriage based on children?
Is it a marriage based on love?
Is it a marriage based on commitment?
Is it a marriage based on trust?
Is it a marriage based on the Rock?
There are 7 questions you have been
asked but only your affirmative answer to one of the questions will
give you a fulfilling
Which one do you think it is?
To that end, I have finished the book
‘Marriage on the Rock’ twice. My precious Leela has
finished parts of the book.
So far, of all the marriage books I have finished,
on the Rock’ is one of the best books I have finished. It was so
good that I finished it more than 2 times. In it’s 332 pages, it
addresses topics such as finding the Rock, secret of a solid
marriage, the law of priority, the law of pursuit, the law of
possession, the law of purity, God’s blueprint for marital bliss,
the destructive husband, four kinds of destructive husbands, how to
understand and meet your wife’s needs, the destructive wife, four
kinds of destructive wives, how to understand and meet your
husband’s needs, when you are building alone, four principles for
building alone, six essential skills for maximum pleasure, skills
for communication, skills for financial success, skills for
successful parenting, skills for sexual pleasure, skills for in-law
relations, skills for remarriage and blended families.
It is a book that you cannot put down once you start reading
it. The best part of the book is its emphasis on Biblical scripture
and making our marriage stand on the Rock of Jesus Christ through
it’s different topics.
If you are having a struggling marriage, this is a must read
book if you want to salvage your marriage. By the Lord’s grace, if
you are having a good marriage, this is a must read book to
strengthen your marriage. However, reading alone is not enough if
you don’t put the principles you learned in these topics into
practice, especially finding your Marriage on the Rock.