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Best of the Pittsburgh Standard Sections of 2001-2002

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Campaign finance reform becomes a crucial platform is

Former Survivor contestant visits Pitt

Athletes train their mind at AIA

Planned Parenthood supports UNFPA

Pitt cheerleaders and dance team rock the Fitzerald Fieldhouse

Bread for the world promotes hunger awareness


Da playas gonna play

Men are from the "O" and women are from "Starbucks"

Mexican exchange student enters a party!

Alcohol visits many faces across lands

Complaints of loneliness can be solved

Inventions of Black America rock

It is a matter of principle and ethics

"Mi casa es su casa": My home is your home


Pitt student assimilates into Delta Zeta

Chi Omega rocks in student's life!


Panthers rise to victory in Orlando

Panthers Tangerine Bowl victory spreads cheer through football players, cheerleaders, and fans!

Pitt finishes at the Fieldhouse with firepower

Knight and Howland receive Big East honors

Pitt's dance team shakes their way into the spotlight

Freshman cheerleader shares experience

Paralympics give hope

Next season for the Panthers looks promising

Prospective teams aiming for the title in 2003


Moral law or religious banter: The debate over the 10 Commandments continues

Court approves peaceful minute

Zultan/Yunich enlighten freshman student!

Start the year 2002 with a new perspective!

Music teaches

Gospel revealed through semantics and word play

Expressions of praise give audience new hope!

Identity can be a complicated matter

My kiss of a lifetime hopes to be special

Jubilee Afrikana rocks the Hilton Hotel in Downtown

Only the right antidote can protect your life

God's love is alphabetically revealed in random languages

God and the Baby


Top 25 reasons behind the origin's of the candy cane

The top 21 responses to 'I have a dream today that....'
Top 14 responses to "A Loving Friend is...."

In celebration of Valentine's Day, the top 50-26 responses to 'Love is....'

In celebration of Valentine's Day, the top 25-1 responses to 'Love is....'

In remembrance of 'Good Friday', the top 25 student responses to 'Loving the world God...'


July 4th fireworks rock Point State Park with a bang


Review of Kuntz Bakery


Finding the sweetest pad in Pittsburgh


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Casual sex cheapens a person

(Rebuttal I to Kate Mavrich's' Pitt News A&E features article: "Make her your baby tonight")

Ramesh C. Reddy
Editor in Chief

I was reading Katie Mavrich’s article appearing in the Jan 08, 02 edition of the Pitt News in the Arts & Entertainment section. Disbelief is the one word I can use to describe her article.

            Her article was called ‘Make her your baby tonight’ which was filled with trashy sexual annotations.

            If you are a guy she wants you to know, “And most importantly, they [girls] will have sex with you without even dating you! Why? Because you are a man of CCR.”

            CCR is supposed to stand for compliments, compassion, and reassurance! She gives her reasoning based on a book by John Fate and Steve Reil called “Make Every Girl Want You.”

            Come on lets be logical. If a guy was genuinely complimentary, compassionate, and reassuring towards a girl, he would care for her for who she is as a person and not to service himself with her for his own drive the first time he meets her in a club, bar, classroom, etc.

            Ladies if you think a guy is really complimentary, compassionate, and reassuring towards you the first time you meet him, he just maybe a nice guy without ulterior motives. On the other hand if he wants your body, warning bells should go of. Don’t be naïve enough to fall for those guys. Those guys are ready to use you up and then go to the next service station to service themselves. I use the phrase ‘service station’ because if you are being used, they are servicing themselves with you and when they feel empty they move on to the next. Pretty sad that you become one of their trophies.

            Ladies if you are so charmed by a guy you meet for the first time that has compliments, compassion, and reassurance for you,  does that make you want to go to bed with him even if he is a stranger and it is without marriage? How do you know he was not putting on a front to get into bed with you?

            It is so sickening that Fate and Reil emphasize CCR for hedonistic and self-gratifying desires that do not last. They themselves may have had pleasure having casual sex with every Jane Doe they met for the first time but that’s all it would ever be: ‘Temporary Pleasure’.

            Yet, it is this they want to teach you so you too can join them in the ranks of living a lustful life that will be just casual. It is utterly shocking that they don’t have any sense of fulfillment in marriage. This is evidenced by Mavrich’s statement!

            Mavrich states, “John Fate and Steve Reil say that after you build trust, you can invite your girl “friend” on a weekend trip alone with you, and without any effort on your part she will be happy to get down and dirty with you.”

            How can they even talk about trust?

            Building trust takes time and does not happen on the first meeting. If trust is a prerequisite to ‘get down and dirty’, Maverich and the authors contradict themselves when it is stated, “They will have sex with you without even dating you.”

            How can you build trust without dating a person for awhile?

            It is during a date a person begins the journey of getting to know the other person. After that if sex becomes an option in their relationship, it is not because of CCR. Love does not start with sex. If sex becomes the #1 backbone of being with a woman, what you have is not love but lust.

        That’s why so many guys dump girls after making out including making many pregnant. You could make her your baby tonight but it would be a one time thing.  Most guys don’t want to take any responsibility for their casual sex. Ladies usually it is all of you that are left to take the pain including the killing choice of murdering a baby through abortion.

            I guess Fate and Reil do not care if that happens because the main thing they wanted to give you is ways to have casual sex. The title of the book alone makes that point.

            Love on the other hand is patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, it does not seek its own way, it is full of trust and believing. Love looks out for the best interests of others.

            According to Mavrich, the author’s of the book also point out, “But don’t do this [‘invite your girl “friend” on a weekend trip’] before you meet some of her friends, because you might want to sleep with one of them instead, and if you sleep with her first, your chances are ruined.”

            How twisted can someone be when it comes to relationships?

People are not objects to be toyed with and thrown away when the pleasure is gone. This is what casual sex makes it to be. I guess the authors have no sense of commitment and chivalry. As a guy, it does not seem they want you to be committed too but keep checking out girls for casual sex as they have done. Mavrich does not seem to have a problem with that but I do.

You know what, without having a sense of commitment, you will be checking out people the rest of your life. Know this as a fact: ‘There will always be someone more beautiful and charming than the one you are with. That’s life! True love is committed and looks beyond that making the person you are with feel like they are the most special, cared for, and appreciated person in the world. It does not start with sex but with true love.

When the article could not get any worse, Mavrich boldly states, “guys on campus shouldn’t have a hard time finding a girl to sleep after a frat party or even after a study session at the library.”

It is pretty pathetic and sad that Mavrich wants students to think about sex the first day they return to school.

Are you waiting for that person with CCR so you can have sex with him?

Wait until you are married, it will be good for you! There is that special person out there for you who you can spend the rest of your life with.

Why bother with Fate and Reil’s thrashy book except for some common sense pointers you do not need their book for! If you are really looking for a good book on dating, I recommend Joshua Harris’ ‘Boy Meets Girl’ and ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’.

If you buy that book and read it, I will reimburse you if you honestly felt it was a waste of your money. Just bring me the receipt.

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